Sunday 25 October 2020

RANDOM : #9

 


feeling
/ˈfiːlɪŋ/
noun
  1. 1.
    an emotional state or reaction.
    "a feeling of joy"
    Similar:
    love
    care
    affection
    fondness
    tenderness
    warmth
    warmness
    emotion
    sentiment
    passion
    ardour
    desire
    lust
    infatuation
    adulation
    adoration
    reverence
    devotion
    compassion
    sympathy
    empathy
    fellow feeling
    understanding
    concern
    solicitude
    solicitousness
    tender-heartedness
    brotherly love
    pity
    sorrow
    commiseration
    condolences
  2. 2.
    an idea or belief, especially a vague or irrational one.
    "he had the feeling that he was being watched"
    Similar:
    suspicion
    sneaking suspicion
    notion
    inkling
    hunch
    fancy
    apprehension
    presentiment
    premonition
    foreboding
    idea
    vague idea
    impression
    gut feeling
    feeling in one's bones
    funny feeling
    sixth sense
adjective
  1. showing emotion or sensitivity.
    "she was a feeling child"
    Similar:
    sensitive
    warm
    warm-hearted
    tender
    tender-hearted
    caring
    soft-hearted
    sympathetic
    compassionate
    understanding
    empathetic
    responsive
    receptive
    intuitive
    thoughtful
    emotional
    demonstrative
    passionate
    fiery
    sensible

So, how's your feeling today?
As for myself, I'm a bit emotionally overwhelm lately. It tires me out, with almost everything. And of course, I want to put the blame on social medias, especially the Instagram.

Which lead to this post today, after quite a year, I am ,finally, posting something ! Yeay!

From the bottom of my heart, I'm happy for my friends, in whatever their success stories would be yet as a human being, sometimes jealousy had me good. I was so jealous with my friends hitting their bucket list, wish lists, goals or whatever it may be  , one by one, whilst  I'm nowhere near  than hitting my goals yet.

Well, I did hit 2 of my goals yet I haven't made any progression since then in 'tick' the next box in my goals lists. And when my friends managed to secure a job only with one or two interviews, the jealousy hits me hard. I felt left out. When my friends has started their next chapter of life, I'm still stuck at the same old routines.

Maybe my effort wasn't enough. My self-esteem getting lower and day by day, the 'Useless' chart getting higher for every rejection that I received after one and another interview sessions. Then, came this particular question, where did everything go wrong?

Then I started to ," What if I did this is instead of that?" . Stupid me, I forgot for awhile ,God is the best planner.

I was too focused and busy on counting the plans that didn't work, the failures and whatnot. I forget to count my blessings. Gratitude turns what we have in enough and this is me trying my best to be grateful in whatever blessings that I received from God.

Lastly, I want to share tips that I found, copy and paste from the internet on how to prevent or stopping  emotional overwhelm :

1.    Accept the anxious feelings
  • Fighting off all-consuming emotions likely doesn’t do much to ease them in a particularly anxious moment. Try to remember that anxiety, to a certain degree, is a “normal” part of the human experience and use acceptance as a tool to work through those uncomfortable feelings (when possible).

2.    Reverse your overwhelmed thought processes
  • Feelings of unpredictability and complete despair fuel overwhelm. Those unreasonable thoughts build up as anxiety and can cause a person significant distress. Stop those damaging thoughts before they become habitual ruminations by honestly asking yourself if that way of thinking is unreasonable or unhelpful. At the same time, try to find alternative, more positive thoughts.

3.     Take some deep breaths
  • When you consciously breathe in deep, it triggers your body’s relaxation response and can come in handy during particularly stressful moments. Additionally, practicing yoga, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation can help calm your body’s response to anxiety, as each exercise helps you to focus your breath.

4.    Be in the moment
  • If your thinking is focused on what the future holds — whether in a few minutes or several years down the road — it may make you more susceptible to becoming overwhelmed. Think about one moment, task, and experience at a time, in the present moment, to help remove the possibility of uncontrollable thoughts that may or may not come about.

5. Know your resources
  • Besides breathing and meditation techniques to help prevent overwhelm, there is plenty of scientific research available about how stress and anxiety impact our cognitive abilities. To strengthen your ability to manage those feelings, discover what studies and recommendations resonate with you by using online search tools.



The word 'Happiness' is too vague but I hope you find life is worth living everyday-B.I Kim Hanbin,2018


Thank you for reading.